"Being a God Parent"
- A word from the founder of the Megan Bear Foundation:
Hello,
I founded the Megan Bear Foundation, in the year 2000. I'm a proud God Parent. A friend of mine (as he laid on his death bed) asked me to watch over his little girl, once he was gone. This was back in 1995. My friend Bill was diagnosed with a brain tumor. Ten short months later, he was gone. I watched his child and family suffer a great loss.
The time of dealing with death for an adult is an emotionally devastating time. Most adults face death with a lot of anger and negative aggression. This reflects on the children around the death. The child will act up and the parent deals with this in a punishment fashion. This just adds more negative energy to the child's grieving period. What is often not understood, is that the child is just as upset as the parent, yet the child acts out in the ways that a child knows, not the way an adult would act.
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A child might seem to just ignore the whole situation and seem to not care. Not true at all, this child is holding in a lot of anger and pain. This can't be good. The child will face the loss, but not be forced upon it with negative energy.
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A child might show signs of anger. Breaking things, saying words to hurt others, and the threat of running away. If a child says, " I will just run away ", take that as a sign that, the child is trying to run from the loss of the loved one. This needs to be handled with caution Your child's school counselor should be able to provide attention to your child. Inform the school about your situation, and then contact us.
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A child might try and control the lives around them "No mommy, don't go to work " are words of a child who is scared of losing another family member and being left alone. Don't let the child run your life, instead of giving in, take the time to talk it out.
I live this life everyday. The Megan Bear Foundation is based on my everyday life, in which I deal with a child that has been left behind by to many family and friends to list, but please understand, I know what you are going through. It is hard for me as well as Megan Bear's Mom, to deal with this depression of a young child. Working close with Megan's teacher and school staff, we are able to compare school and home life. This gives us a chance to watch the depression and understand why something's take place. "Last week was good, this week things are a mess at school". stated her teacher. We then tell the teacher, one of Megan's friends past away on Sunday.
I have dedicated my life to this foundation and to help in the fight to stop prolonged depression, due to death. I thank you for interest in the foundation and please tell a friend
Your friend and founder,
Scott Lynch
Scott Lynch is:
* An Independent Businessman
* A Community Volunteer
* On the Board of Directors AYSO 46
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